The holidays can be a whirlwind of parties, travel, and family drama, making it hard to find time for the most important connection—intimacy with your partner(s). If you’re looking to keep the spark alive amidst all the chaos (and maybe heat things up a little), these five tips will help you make pleasure a priority this season.

1. Ditch the Family Drama (and Set Some Boundaries)

Listen, we all know the holidays can come with a side of family stress, but that doesn’t mean your sex life has to suffer. Gone are the days of pretending you didn’t hear your creepy uncle’s comments and critiques. This year, make “no” your favorite word when it comes to over-committing to family plans. Tell them you’ve got some “private festivities” planned, and keep that time sacred. When you create space away from the holiday madness, you’ll find more room for the fun kind of “unwrapping” with your partner.

2. Schedule Some Dates

It’s time to put the “date” back into your calendar, and we’re not talking about office parties. We mean intentional intimacy dates. Whether it’s a cozy night bingeing holiday rom-coms in your underwear or an afternoon bath with mulled wine, set up dedicated moments for just the two of you- or just you! It doesn’t have to be wild—just unplug, relax, and make sure you’re creating space for those “mistletoe” moments.

3. Turn Up the Heat with a Sensual Massage

Who needs a spa day when you’ve already got the best masseuse  (a.k.a., your partner)? This season, trade the stress for some hands-on action. Grab a bottle of our brand new sensual massage oil—in lavender + rosemary, vanilla + sugarcane, or lemongrass + ginger—and take turns exploring each other’s bodies slowly. Focus on touch, scent, and sensation. Take turns giving and receiving. Perhaps add a blindfold. Before you know it, that massage might turn into a whole other kind of “festive celebration.” (You’re welcome.)

4. Add a Little Spice to Your Cart

If you’re spending hours scrolling for gifts, why not toss something a little naughty AND nice in your online cart too? Treat a partner (and yourself) to a sexy surprise—like some sensual massage creams, a flavored lube, a new sensation lube to play with together, or that blindfold mentioned above. It’s the perfect way to say, “I’m thinking about you,” and build some holiday excitement. Bonus: It doubles as a gift you get to enjoy, too. Now that’s the gift that keeps on giving!

5. Couple Up for Some Holiday Self-Care

Self-care is trending hard, and for good reason. It’s time to jump on that bandwagon and make it sexy with your partner. Whether it’s trying a yoga flow together, taking a post holiday dinner walk hand-in-hand, or getting into a guided meditation sesh, these activities help you connect on a deeper level. When your minds and bodies are in sync, you’re more likely to end up connecting in other ways too. (Hint: it’s a great way to warm up after that chilly walk.)

Let’s face it—pleasure shouldn’t be an afterthought, even when things get chaotic. By prioritizing each other and spicing up your time together, you’ll keep the intimacy alive and make this holiday season one to remember. So go ahead—schedule that sexy date, stock up on massage oil, and start creating your own romantic traditions that’ll have you feeling festive all year long.