Perimenopause and Sexual Wellness: Top Sex Toys
Your Body’s Changing—Your Pleasure Shouldn’t Have to
Perimenopause marks the beginning of a new chapter. Hormonal shifts can start as early as your 30s or 40s and often bring unexpected side effects—hot flashes, irregular cycles, and for many people, changes in libido, sensitivity, and comfort during intimacy.
But here's the thing: this doesn't mean your sex life is over. It means your needs are evolving—and there are tools designed to meet you right where you are.
The right sex toys, paired with quality lubricants and enhancers like those from Wicked Sensual Care, can help you reconnect with your body, boost confidence, and reclaim pleasure. In this guide, we’re diving into how perimenopause affects sexual wellness—and which toys, lubes, and accessories can help you enhance intimacy and feel more like you again.
What Perimenopause Does to Your Sex Life (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)
Perimenopause is the transitional phase before menopause, and it can last several years. According to the Cleveland Clinic (2023) and Harvard Health, hormonal fluctuations during this time often lead to:
- Vaginal dryness
- Decreased arousal
- Changes in sensitivity
- Increased time to orgasm
- Lower libido
These aren’t failures—they’re natural changes. And thankfully, you’re not stuck with discomfort or frustration. With the right support, intimacy can feel better than ever.
Why Sex Toys Matter More During Perimenopause
Many people discover that during perimenopause, what used to work doesn’t quite do the trick anymore. That’s okay. This is actually the perfect time to explore new types of stimulation and discover what feels good now.
Here’s how toys can help:
- Boost arousal and blood flow to the genitals.
- Enhance sensitivity where it may have dulled.
- Make solo play easier and more satisfying.
- Help partners navigate changing needs in a non-stressful way.
💡 And remember: Pairing toys with the right lube and stimulation-enhancing products can maximize comfort and pleasure.
Top Sex Toys to Try During Perimenopause
1. External Vibrators
When internal stimulation is uncomfortable or less satisfying, external toys are game-changers. They’re perfect for gentle clitoral stimulation, which can help rebuild arousal and sensitivity.
Try it with:
👉 Wicked Sensual Care Awaken Clitoral Stimulating Gel
This unique formula increases circulation and sensation with a botanical blend that feels tingly but not overwhelming. It’s made without menthol, parabens, or fragrance—perfect for sensitive skin.
👉 Pair with:
simply® timeless™ Aqua Lubricant
Water-based, non-irritating, and designed especially for menopausal and perimenopausal bodies.
2. Slim Internal Vibrators or Dilators
If you’re dealing with tightness or discomfort during penetration, starting small is key. Look for slim, body-safe silicone vibrators or even graduated dilator sets. These allow you to rebuild internal comfort at your own pace.
Tips:
- Use plenty of lube (we recommend simply® timeless™ Aqua Jelle for extra cushion).
- Go slow. This is about retraining the body without pain.
Don’t forget to clean after each use: 👉 Wicked Sensual Care Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray is a must—quick, easy, and gentle on materials and skin.
3. Dual Stimulation Toys
Also known as rabbit vibrators or combination toys, these stimulate the clitoris and G-spot simultaneously. If you find your orgasms take longer or feel different than before, this type of toy can help restore that full-body bliss.
Enhance the experience with:
- Wicked Sensual Care Hybrid Lubricant: A long-lasting blend of water and silicone that provides silky glide—especially great for more intense toy play.
4. Hands-Free Toys and Couples Toys
Sex during perimenopause often improves when pressure is taken off performance. Hands-free toys and vibrating rings let you or your partner focus more on pleasure, not technique.
These toys are especially helpful for:
- Keeping things intimate without overexertion
- Supporting partner play when libido or energy levels are low
Use with:
- simply® Aqua Special Edition (supports LGBTQIA+ organizations and is a great choice for clean, water-based fun)
- Toy Love or Toy Love Heat for extra sensory excitement
Lube: Your Everyday Essential
Hormonal changes = less natural lubrication, even when aroused. Lube isn’t just a helper anymore—it’s essential for comfort, safety, and pleasure.
Top menopause-safe picks from Wicked Sensual Care:
- simply® timeless™ Aqua: Clean, water-based, and enriched with olive leaf extract and DHEA.
- simply® timeless™ Hybrid + DHEA: Perfect if you need extra staying power without reapplying constantly.
- Wicked Aqua Sensitive: If you have allergies or are prone to irritation.
💡 Quick tip: Use lube before dryness becomes noticeable. It works best when you’re proactive, not reactive.
Using Enhancers to Boost Sensation
If your clitoris or G-spot feels less responsive, you’re not imagining it. Estrogen drop-off affects blood flow, which impacts sensation. That’s where a gentle topical enhancer can make all the difference.
Try:
👉 Wicked Sensual Care Awaken Clitoral Stimulating Gel
Apply a tiny amount (pea-sized!) to the clitoris and allow it to absorb. Wait a few minutes before beginning play. It can be used solo or with toys and partners.
Bonus: It's toy compatible and safe for daily use if you want to experiment with how it affects your arousal levels.
Don’t Skip Toy Cleaning
Tissue becomes thinner and more prone to irritation during perimenopause, so toy hygiene is non-negotiable. The last thing you want is to introduce bacteria that can lead to infections or discomfort.
We recommend:
- simply® Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray for fast, everyday cleaning.
- simply® Foam ’n Fresh for a more thorough, wash-and-rinse clean.
💡 Hack: Keep toy cleaner next to your sink or in your toy drawer—if it’s visible, you’ll use it.
How to Talk to a Partner About These Changes
Perimenopause affects you both—so keep communication open and compassionate. Here are some talking points:
- “Things are changing, and I want us to figure out new ways to enjoy each other.”
- “I’m exploring different types of touch and toys to help my body feel good again.”
- “This isn’t about replacing anything. It’s about evolving together.”
👉 Involve your partner in toy selection or let them apply lube or enhancers—shared rituals build connection.
Perimenopause Is a New Era—Not the End
If you’re in the thick of perimenopause and feeling disconnected from your body, please know: you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Your sex life doesn’t end here—it simply® needs support that meets you where you are today.
With Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless™ collection, gentle and effective toy-friendly lubricants, plus trusted toy cleaners and arousal gels like Awaken, you can take control of your intimacy with confidence and care.
Because pleasure should be a constant—not a casualty of aging.
Citations:
- Cleveland Clinic. (2023). Perimenopause: What It Is, Symptoms & Treatment. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/16561-perimenopause
- Harvard Health Publishing. (2022). Sex and menopause: What to expect. https://www.health.harvard.edu/womens-health/sex-and-menopause-what-to-expect
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