jessica drake’s Tips for Mental Health and Masturbation Month in May

MAYbe…

So, if April Showers bring May flowers, Maybe this month we fully embody the rejuvenation of Spring and open ourselves to the possibility of newness. We’ve spent so much time in the past year fearing for the worst, some of us surviving the worst, maybe now it’s time we pause and ask ourselves “what if it all works out in the end?”

Maybe instead of hating these bodies of ours that carried us through a pandemic, we love them the way they deserve? Speak compassion and grace into your body. Indulge it with things that help it feel good, soothe it, and celebrate it. Do not begrudge the weight gained nor the weight lost. You were doing the best you could.

As Cassie, our Marketing Director and self-proclaimed “Lube Nerd” said, it’s likely no coincidence that May is both #MasturbationMonth AND #MentalHealthMonth – we know how sexual health and wellness can be tied into mental health. Let’s acknowledge both proclamations by talking about masturbation and pleasure as if they were our birthrights- because they are. Masturbation has a host of benefits that go hand in hand with our mental health. It causes our brains to make those “feel good’ chemicals- it can fight stress and relax us, help us sleep better, gets us comfortable in our skin, and the bottom line is it feels good.

Maybe try something completely different. Change the setting of self-love. Is the bed the usual spot for you? Try the couch. The shower or bath. Outside, if you have the privacy and the weather is cooperating. Romance yourself. Engage your brain and your body at the same time and appreciate your imagination. Imagine the very best sex you’ve ever had. Imagine the very best sex that you’ve never had but one day you just might. Think about how it looks, how it feels, how it smells, how it sounds. Think about it as you start to explore your body. Use lube on your fingers as they start to roam. Try a sensation lube like Aqua Heat or Chill to change things up and supply you with stimulating sensations to bring you more in touch with your body. Incorporate your new favorite toy. Take your sweet time. Maybe you orgasm once…or maybe you discover you’re capable of multiple or blended Os. Maybe you don’t have an orgasm at all, and you still feel amazing just the same.

Maybe I take my own advice, because often things are easier said than done. 

May we grow and blossom and heal all Spring long.

xo,

jd