jessica drake’s Tips for Masturbation May

It’s Masturbation May! As someone deeply passionate about sexual wellness and empowerment, I’m super excited to dive into one of my fave personal subjects: the art of self-love and the pure joy of masturbation. This month isn’t just a celebration of solo play; it’s a perfect time to get in touch with your body and explore pleasure in new ways. Here are a few tips and fun product suggestions to enhance your self-love sessions!

Why I Celebrate Masturbation

Masturbation is such a powerful way to understand your desires and preferences in a totally safe and comfy space. For me, every session is like a mini-journey of self-discovery. Whether you’re a newbie or a self-love pro, each moment of exploration builds confidence and gives you personal insight into what gets you off — and that makes it easier to explain it to someone else!

My Go-To Tools

I love mixing things up with toys. If you’re looking to enhance your experience, why not try adding some playful companions to your repertoire? A great starter toy is a simple external vibrator. Pair any toy with Wicked Sensual Care’s Toy Fever to add that extra sensation and make your toys glide smoothly.

Setting the Perfect Scene

I find that setting the tone makes a big difference. I love to dim the lights, light a few candles, and put on music to match my mood- I’m seducing myself! Sometimes, I’ll even treat myself to a warm bath with oils beforehand. It turns my self-love time into a really indulgent treat.

Trying New Things

If you’re anything like me, you might find yourself in a bit of a self-pleasure rut. Why not shake things up? Slow down your pace, explore edging—where you bring yourself close to climax and then back off. This method has transformed my orgasms into something spectacularly intense. Or, experiment with different times—morning sessions really invigorate my day, and a nighttime routine helps me sleep better than a sleeping pill.  

I also love to use Wicked Sensual Care’s Awaken clitoral stimulation gel. If you have a clit and haven’t tried this out yet, I highly recommend it! Awaken has amazing cooling and warming botanicals that spice up every touch, making my skin tingle in the very best way.

Lube: A Must-Have

Seriously, even if you think you’re fine without it, give lube a try. It’s a game changer. Lube isn’t just for people with “problems”- it decreases friction and increases pleasure. To make things glide effortlessly, I recommend Wicked Sensual Care’s Jelle. It’s extra-thick, perfect for any kind of play—external, internal, or even anal.

Penis Pleasure, Too

For those of you who enjoy a bit of indulgence in penis pleasure, don’t forget about Wicked Sensual Care’s Créme. It’s a fantastic external stroking cream for penises that I’ve found adds a velvety touch that really enhances the experience.

Connecting Deeply with My Body

Masturbation is so much more than just aiming for an orgasm—it’s about bonding with your body. I love to focus on every little sensation. Which strokes make me gasp, which pressures send me over the edge? Knowing these helps not only during solo play but also when I’m with a partner.

The Many Benefits

Here’s a fun fact: Regular self-pleasure can improve your sleep, boost your mood, and even enhance your immune system. I always say it’s my favorite form of self-care!

Breaking the Silence on Masturbation

Talking about masturbation can still feel taboo, but it’s such a normal and healthy part of our sexuality. This month, I challenge you to open up about your experiences. It’s amazing how sharing can help demystify and normalize self-pleasure.