jessica drake’s Top 5 Sex Tips: My Go-To Advice for Better Pleasure

Hi everyone, jessica drake here! You know I love to talk about all things pleasure, sex education, and empowerment, and after years of giving workshops, writing blogs, and—let’s be real—having a LOT of personal experience, I’ve learned there are a few simple tips that always make sex better.

Whether you’re single, partnered, into toys, or just curious about upping your game, these are my top 5 sex tips that I believe everyone should know. Think of it as my personal cheat sheet to better sex, sprinkled with some of my favorite Wicked Sensual Care products (because, let’s face it, good lube and a little prep go a LONG way).

Let’s dive in!

1️⃣ Talk About Sex… Yes, Actually Talk About It

I know, I know—talking about sex can feel awkward. But here’s the thing: the best sex happens when everyone’s on the same page.

I’ve said it in so many workshops: no one is a mind reader. Whether you’ve been with your partner for 10 years or 10 minutes, asking (and telling!) what you want is the fastest way to more satisfying sex.

My favorite ways to get the convo started?

• Use a fun “Would You Rather” game with sexy twists.

• Watch an erotic movie together and ask, “What part turned you on the most?”

• Or just straight-up say, “I’d love to try something new with you—are you game?”

💡 Hot tip: When you’re talking about new things to try, grab a bottle of Wicked Sensual Care Aqua Salted Caramel and do a little taste test. It keeps things light, fun, and delicious!

2️⃣ Lube, Lube, Lube (And Did I Mention Lube?)

If you’ve ever been to one of my classes or read my past blogs, you know what I’m about to say: LUBE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND.

Seriously—no matter your age, gender, or what kind of sex you’re having, lube:

• Increases pleasure.

• Reduces friction (and ouch moments).

• Helps prevent microtears and irritation.

And it’s not just for people who think they need it—lube makes everything feel better. My absolute go-to is Wicked Sensual Care Aqua. It’s water-based, super silky, and safe for use with all toys and condoms.

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3️⃣ Slow. It. Down.

One of the biggest mistakes I see people make (especially when nerves or excitement take over) is rushing through sex. But trust me—the magic is in the buildup.

Think about it like this: the longer the tease, the bigger the payoff. Let kissing linger, explore your partner’s whole body, and focus on what feels good now instead of racing toward the finish line.

One of my favorite tools to help you slow things down? Massage. A sensual massage is not only relaxing, it’s a full-body invitation to get in the mood.

Grab one of Wicked Sensual Care’s sensual massage oils—I personally love the Vanilla + Sugarcane blend—and make a date of it. Bonus: massaging each other teaches you a LOT about what your partner likes.

4️⃣ Say Yes to Solo Play

Let’s bust a myth right now: solo sex is NOT second best. In fact, I always tell people that getting to know your own body—on your own terms—is one of the best things you can do for your sexual wellness.

Masturbation helps:

• Relieve stress.

• Improve sleep.

• Teach you exactly what feels good (so you can tell your partner!).

If you’re new to toys or just want to spice up your routine, pair your favorite vibe with Wicked Sensual Care Awaken Clitoral Stimulating Gel. It’s designed to heighten sensitivity in a way that feels tingly and delicious—but never overwhelming or irritating (no menthol here!).

💡 Pro tip: Apply a little Awaken, give it a few minutes to kick in, and then add Aqua for a silky smooth experience.

5️⃣ Clean Your Toys. Every. Single. Time.

This is IMPORTANT. Toys that aren’t properly cleaned can lead to irritation or even infections—and when you’ve invested in beautiful toys, you want them to last.

I always keep Wicked Sensual Care Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray and Foam ’n Fresh within reach. They’re easy to use, gentle on your toys (and body), and help you keep everything fresh and safe.

💡 Quick tip: Make toy cleaning part of your aftercare or cool-down ritual. It keeps things sexy, respectful, and ready for next time.

jessica drake’s Top 5 Sex Tips

At the end of the day, the best sex tip I can give you is this: there’s no one right way to have amazing sex. What matters is that it’s consensual, safe, and satisfying for you.

Whether you’re diving into something new with a partner, enjoying a night of solo exploration, or just starting the convo about what you want, remember to:

• Be kind to yourself.

• Laugh off the awkward moments.

• Celebrate every win, big or small.

And of course—keep your nightstand stocked with Wicked Sensual Care’s sensual lubricants, enhancers, and toy cleaners. Because good sex starts with good tools (and good communication).

Here’s to your best sex life yet—

xo,

 jessica drake