How to Introduce Sex Toys into Your Relationship Post-Menopause
Why Post-Menopause Might Be the Best Time to Try Sex Toys
Let’s get real: menopause changes a lot, especially when it comes to intimacy. Fluctuating hormones, dryness, and shifts in libido are common—according to the North American Menopause Society (2023), over 50% of postmenopausal people experience vaginal dryness and discomfort during sex.
But that doesn’t mean pleasure is off the table. In fact, post-menopause can be an amazing time to explore new dimensions of intimacy, including the exciting world of sex toys.
The key? Learning how to introduce toys in a way that feels natural, fun, and empowering—for you and your partner.
We’re here to help you navigate it, step-by-step, with tips to boost your confidence and products designed specifically to meet your needs—like Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless™ collection, which is formulated especially for perimenopause, menopause, and beyond.
Step 1: Get Comfortable with the Idea
It’s normal to feel a little nervous about bringing up sex toys, especially if they’ve never been part of your relationship before. Start by educating yourself about the benefits:
- Less Discomfort: Menopause often brings dryness and vaginal discomfort with penetration, which high-quality lube and specialized toys can assist with.
- Increased sensation: Toys like vibrators can stimulate nerve endings that might feel less sensitive post-menopause.
- Fun & bonding: Exploring something new together can deepen intimacy and keep things exciting.
Framing sex toys as a pleasure tool, not a replacement, can help reduce any awkwardness. Remember: it’s about enhancing everyone’s experiences.
Step 2: Choose Toys That Are Gentle and Easy to Use
Post-menopause, your body may need gentler, body-safe materials and designs. Here are a few great options to start with:
- External vibrators: These stimulate the clitoris or vulva without penetration, ideal if you're easing back into things.
- Slim internal vibrators: Look for smaller designs with soft silicone, perfect for gradual reintroduction to penetration.
- Couples’ rings or hands-free toys: These allow both of you to enjoy new sensations during partnered play.
Example: Pair a slim, silicone vibe with a partner for extra clitoral stimulation during intercourse—it’s a small change that can make a huge difference.
Step 3: Lubrication Is a Must
Even if you never used lube before menopause, it’s your new best friend now. Vaginal dryness can lead to discomfort, microtears, and a frustrating drop in pleasure.
The simply® timeless™ collection from Wicked Sensual Care is specially formulated for mature bodies, using gentle, hydrating ingredients like olive leaf extract and DHEA to support tissue health.
Top picks:
- simply® timeless™ Aqua Water-Based Lubricant: A silky, long-lasting water-based formula that mimics natural lubrication—without any irritating ingredients.
- simply® timeless™ Aqua Jelle: A thicker gel consistency that stays where you want it, ideal for more cushion and comfort during penetration.
- simply® timeless™ Hybrid + DHEA: Combines water and silicone for extra longevity and a lush feel, with added DHEA to support vaginal tissue health.
💡 Pro tip: Apply lube generously to the toy and your body—don’t skimp! And remember, lube isn’t just for penetration; it makes any kind of touch feel more sensual and satisfying.
Step 4: Try Enhancers to Boost Sensation
Some people notice a decrease in sensitivity post-menopause. That’s where pleasure enhancers come in. Products like Wicked Sensual Care’s Awaken Clitoral Stimulating Gel are designed to heighten sensation through gentle tingling and warming effects.
How it helps:
- Boosts clitoral responsiveness.
- Adds variety to foreplay and solo play.
- Can be layered with lube and toys for extra pleasure.
👉 Example combo: Apply Awaken to your clitoris, follow with a gentle vibe, and use simply® timeless™ Aqua to keep everything smooth and hydrated.
Step 5: Prioritize Hygiene (and Keep It Sexy)
Toys should never skip cleaning—especially post-menopause, when vaginal tissue can be more prone to irritation or infection. That’s why it’s smart to make toy care part of the ritual.
We love:
- Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray: Quick, effective, and safe for all toy materials.
- Foam & Fresh: A foaming toy wash for deep but gentle cleaning.
💡 Tip: Make toy cleaning part of your shared experience—it keeps things fun, respectful, and safe.
Real Talk: Addressing Common Concerns
“What if my partner feels replaced?”
Remind them that toys are a bonus, not a substitute. They’re tools to help both of you feel more pleasure.
“I’m embarrassed to bring it up.”
Try framing it around shared pleasure: “I’ve been reading about ways we can make things even more fun and enjoyable together—want to try something new?”
“I’m worried about pain.”
That’s totally valid! This is why it’s key to choose gentle toys, go slow, use plenty of lube (like simply® timeless™ Aqua), and listen to your body. If pain persists, talk with a pelvic health specialist or gynecologist.
Keep the Adventure Going
Introducing sex toys isn’t a one-time event—it’s a journey of rediscovery and connection. Celebrate small wins, keep the conversation open, and explore what feels good today, even if it’s different from what used to work.
For deeper dives into pleasure and wellness, check out educational guides from Wicked Sensual Care’s Sex Educator, jessica drake—she offers excellent, approachable sex ed for people of all ages and stages.
Sex Toys and Menopause
Menopause may change your body, but it doesn’t have to sideline your sex life. In fact, many people find that post-menopause is a time of renewed intimacy and discovery—especially with the right tools and mindset.
Start simple: open the conversation, explore gentle toys, and make lubrication and care non-negotiable. Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless™ collection—from Aqua Jelle to Hybrid + DHEA—was made for exactly this chapter of your life. Pair it with Awaken for a boost in sensation and keep everything clean with Cleene Toy Cleaner.
You deserve intimacy that feels good, comfortable, and exciting—at every age.
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