It’s Anal August

It’s officially Anal August! Before you read all the ways to celebrate  Anal August with Wicked Sensual Care, I want to share some information from Anal workshops I’ve given throughout the years. 

At the beginning of class, I ask folks what their top concerns are about anal play. Here are the top 3 concerns about anal sex I have heard over and over again (Bear in mind, these are folks who have already agreed to take the class, so we can assume they’re into anal or at least anal-curious):

1. I’m worried about pain from anal sex.

This sentiment has come from people on both the giving AND receiving end of anal penetration. Sometimes, people who are reluctant to engage in anal sex, have had a negative, painful first experience they’re afraid to repeat. Pain is an important sign during any type of anal penetration- it’s our bodies’ way of saying something’s wrong. Anal sex can feel different. Intense. Stretchy. Full. But if you’re experiencing pain, it’s a sign to go back a step or two. 

Use a smaller toy or plug. Fewer fingers. Stop penetration and go back to exterior stimulation, focusing on masturbation. Always use plenty of lube. After you’ve used plenty of lube, use more. Please do NOT use numbing creams- these desensitizers can lead to serious injuries. Instead, warm up slowly and be mindful of the sensations in your body.

2. What if anal sex is messy?

Having anal sex CAN be messy. It’s part of the territory, and if you’re with someone who is just too squeamish to handle it, you may want to stick to external anal stimulation only. There are a few ways to prep for anal sex, from having a shower and washing the anal area with soap and water to using a water-based enema, or even changing your diet days before play. 

As you’re figuring out your body, you’ll find the way that works best for you. And if accidents do happen, stop, do a clean up, and decide if you’d like to keep going. Don’t make a big deal of it- it happens. Some people like anal sex in the shower, and some throw down a towel on the bed beforehand.

3. Is anal sex only for gay men?

You may be surprised how many people with penises have asked me this question. The answer is no. It just means you enjoy anal pleasure. 

Hopefully, by reading this, you’re feeling more confident exploring anal pleasure. Taking some time to learn what you’re into before sharing with a partner may be helpful- Happy August!

xo

jd