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As estrogen levels begin to decline during perimenopause and menopause, many people experience frustrating changes in sexual wellness—from vaginal dryness and irritation to decreased libido and painful intercourse. These changes are natural, but that doesn't mean they should disrupt your intimacy or comfort. The good news? The right lubricant can make all the difference.

This guide goes deep into how and why your body changes, and how different lubricants—especially those in Wicked Sensual Care's simply® timeless collection—can support you through every stage with pleasure, relief, and renewed confidence.

Understanding Vaginal Changes During Menopause

Before diving into product solutions, it’s essential to understand what’s going on.

Common vaginal symptoms during perimenopause and menopause include:

• Dryness and loss of natural lubrication
• Thinning of vaginal walls (atrophy)
• Increased risk of tearing or irritation during intercourse
• Reduced elasticity and tightness
• Lower libido or altered response to arousal
• Pain or discomfort during sex (dyspareunia)

These changes are caused by a drop in estrogen, which reduces the moisture and plumpness of vaginal tissue. Over time, this can lead to GSM (Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause).

Lubricants = essential tools, not just for pleasure, but for vaginal health and comfort.

"The right lubricant can be the bridge between discomfort and joy, between avoiding intimacy and seeking it out."

— jessica drake, Marketing Director, Wicked Sensual Care

 

Why Choose Wicked Sensual Care's simply® timeless Line?

The simply® timeless collection is expertly formulated with perimenopausal and menopausal bodies in mind. Each product is:

• Fragrance-free
• Paraben-free
• pH-balanced
• Glycerin-free
• Dermatologist tested

These are menopausal lubricants you can trust. Each formula supports vaginal tissue integrity, enhances comfort, and restores pleasure.

 

Let’s break it down:

1. simply® timeless Aqua

Best For: Everyday dryness, light intimacy, gentle toy play
Format: Water-based
Texture: Lightweight, smooth, non-sticky

How It Helps:

• Rehydrates dry vaginal tissue
• Mimics natural moisture for daily relief
• Easily reapply during intercourse without mess
• Safe with all toys and condoms

Tips for Use:

• Apply a dime-sized amount to vaginal entrance and labia daily or before intimacy
• Reapply every 15–20 minutes during longer sessions
• Can be used as a daily moisturizer for external dryness

Why It’s One of the Best:

• Non-irritating, gentle enough for everyday use
• Known as one of the best water based lubricant for menopause dryness

"Water-based lubes like timeless Aqua are great for those who want to ease back into intimacy gently. They're versatile and kind to sensitive skin." — Joan Price, senior sex educator

2. simply® timeless Aqua Jelle

Best For: Cushioning, anal play, use with menopause sex toys
Format: Thick water-based gel
Texture: Plush, long-lasting, non-drip

How It Helps:

• Provides more substantial glide and padding
• Reduces discomfort from friction or thinner tissues
• Excellent for both vaginal and anal intimacy

Tips for Use:

• Use a quarter-sized amount before penetration
• Great for people who need extra time to become aroused
• Reapply as needed; won't evaporate quickly

Why It’s One of the Best:

• Best lubricant for sex during menopause when more cushion is needed
• Excellent for toys and fingers
• Doesn’t run, so it stays where you want it

3. simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA

Best For: Daily vaginal support, enhanced intimacy, increased elasticity
Format: Hybrid (Water + Silicone) + DHEA
Texture: Silky-smooth, hydrating, light glide

How It Helps:

• Combines the best of water and silicone
• Includes DHEA, a hormone shown to improve tissue elasticity
• Improves long-term comfort and arousal response

Tips for Use:

• Use externally and internally before intimacy or as a daily vaginal moisturizer
• Ideal for perimenopause sexual desire shifts
• One of the safest lubricant for intercourse after menopause thanks to skin-rejuvenating DHEA

Why It’s One of the Best:

• A favorite personal lubricant for menopause support and sex
• DHEA helps improve the condition of delicate tissue over time
• Excellent for people wanting to balance intimacy and hormone-free care

4. simply® timeless Silicone

Best For: Long-lasting sessions, water play, intense intimacy
Format: Silicone-based
Texture: Ultra-slick, long-lasting, luxurious

How It Helps:

• Doesn’t dry out during longer sessions
• Doesn’t absorb into the skin (so no need to reapply often)
• Great for shower sex or bath play

Tips for Use:

• A little goes a long way; use sparingly
• Not compatible with silicone toys (unless you do a patch test)
• Clean with mild soap and water post-intimacy

Why It’s One of the Best:

• Best lubricant for intercourse after menopause if you want extended glide and comfort
• Great for those who experience extreme dryness or friction pain

Choosing the Right Lube for Different Situations

Everyday Dryness?

• Use: simply® timeless Aqua or Hybrid + DHEA
• Frequency: 1–2x daily
• Bonus: Add a bit after showering to seal in moisture

Quickie or Spontaneous Sex?

• Use: Aqua Jelle or Silicone
• Frequency: Apply as needed, reapply as needed mid-play

Anal or Toy Play?

• Use: Aqua Jelle or Silicone
• Bonus: Positioning cushions + thicker lubes help reduce discomfort

Water Play (shower or bath)?

• Use: Silicone
• Bonus: Pair with non-silicone toys for safety

Rekindling Desire?

• Use: Hybrid + DHEA (for increased vaginal health)
• Bonus: Massage in like a lotion before bed

Struggling with Pain?

• Use: Aqua Jelle for barrier and Hybrid + DHEA for restoration
• Pair with: Wedge cushions, longer foreplay, and external stimulation

Application Tips for Maximum Comfort

1. Start with Clean Hands

• Hygiene is essential to prevent infection or irritation

2. Warm It Up

• Rub the lube between your fingers to bring it to body temperature

3. Apply to More Than Just One Spot

• Lubricate around the vaginal opening, clitoral hood, and labia
• If comfortable, insert 1-2 fingers with a dab for internal hydration

4. Don’t Rush

• Let the product settle for a minute before play begins

5. Reapply Without Shame

• More lube = more comfort
• Keep a towel and lube bottle within arm's reach

Why Lubricants Belong in Every Menopausal Bedroom

Lubricants are:

• Preventative
• Pleasurable
• Protective
• Part of self-care

"Sex after menopause doesn’t have to hurt. It doesn’t have to disappear. Menopausal bodies are still capable of rich, powerful pleasure with the right support." — Joan Price

Lubricants aren’t just for sex. They help you:

• Stay connected to your body
• Ease hormone-induced discomfort
• Build confidence for solo or partnered play

If you’re experiencing vaginal dryness, discomfort, or low libido, the best lubricant for sex during menopause is the one that supports your needs physically and emotionally. For many, that means choosing Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless products.

 

Perimenopause, Menopause, and Beyond: Reclaiming Pleasure at Every Age

Menopause doesn’t end your story. It adds a new chapter.

• Explore what intimacy looks like for you now
• Choose the best lubricant for sex after menopause that fits your body and preferences
• Use products daily, not just in the moment
• Keep experimenting with menopause sex toys, massage, and sensation

Wicked Sensual Care's simply® timeless line isn’t just about lubrication. It’s about liberation.

You deserve pleasure. You deserve comfort. You deserve lube that evolves with you.

→ Shop the simply® timeless collection

→ Learn more from Joan Price and jessica drake

 

Your body isn’t broken. It’s changing. And that change can be beautiful.

 

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Instead of silently suffering through discomfort, vaginal dryness, reduced libido, body aches, and mood swings, what if you built a personal Menopause Survival Kit? A mix of essentials for your bedroom, your body, and your well-being—a Menopause Survival Kit includes items that support you through every stage with comfort, confidence, and pleasure.

 

Below, you'll find our expert-curated list of life-changing products, including the best lubricant for intercourse for perimenopause, menopause, and beyond, thoughtful intimacy aids, supportive props, and sensual self-care tools. Whether you’re embracing perimenopause horniness or dealing with postmenopausal dryness, this guide has you covered.

Why Build a Menopause Survival Kit?

Menopause isn’t just about hot flashes or hormone shifts. It impacts every part of your daily and intimate life:

• Changes in vaginal lubrication and elasticity
• Decreased or fluctuating libido
• Pain or discomfort during intimacy
• Mood swings, night sweats, and temperature sensitivity
• Need for more intentional support and cushioning during play

Having a kit ready empowers you to:

• Alleviate discomfort
• Embrace changing desire
• Create joyful, affirming intimate experiences
• Care for your body with softness and support

"Your pleasure doesn’t expire. It evolves. Building a pleasure toolkit means you’re making your changing body a priority, not a problem."

— jessica drake, Wicked Sensual Care 

Essential Menopause Category 1: Lubricants & Moisturizers

Lubrication changes during menopause. For some, it’s occasional dryness. For others, it’s a daily need. Whether you're seeking daily moisture or intimate slickness, these menopausal lubricants help restore comfort and confidence.

 

Wicked Sensual Care's simply® timeless Collection:

Developed specifically for perimenopausal and menopausal bodies, this collection is fragrance-free, paraben-free, pH balanced, and designed for hormonal dryness.

simply® timeless Aqua

• Lightweight, water-based
• Safe with all toys and latex
• Best water based lubricant for menopause dryness
• Ideal for everyday use or gentle intimacy

simply® timeless Aqua Jelle

• Thicker water-based gel
• Excellent for toys and anal play
• Best lubricant for sex during menopause when extra cushion is needed
• Doesn’t drip. Stays where it should.

simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA

• Hybrid base (water + silicone)
• DHEA for skin regeneration & comfort
• Perfect personal lubricant for menopause and daily moisturizing

simply® timeless Silicone

• Longest lasting, ultra-slick
• Great for shower play or marathon intimacy
• Safest lubricant for intercourse after menopause (non-irritating, hypoallergenic)

"Our lubricants aren’t just about comfort. They’re about pleasure, intimacy, and reclaiming joy. Every formula is designed to support real people going through real transitions." — jessica drake, Wicked Sensual Care

Other tips:

• Keep a travel-size lube in your bag for on-the-go comfort
• Store a larger bottle bedside
• Use daily, not just during sex, to stay ahead of dryness

simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA

simply® timeless Silicone

simply® timeless Aqua JELLE Water-Based

simply® timeless Aqua Water-Based

Essential Menopause Category 2: Sensual Body Care

Your skin changes during menopause, too. Wicked Sensual Care's massage creams and oils help nourish, hydrate, and turn any moment into a sensual experience.

Stripped + Bare Massage Cream

• Ultra-hydrating with a smooth glide
• Non-greasy, rich in skin-loving ingredients
• Great for couples or solo massage

Lavender Massage Oil

• Lightly scented with calming lavender
• Ideal for winding down or mindful connection
• Promotes relaxation for those high-anxiety menopause moments

Pair with warming hands, a heated pillow, or soft candlelight.

rose + sandalwood Sensual Massage Oil

honeysuckle + ivy Sensual Massage Oil

Coconut Oil Based Lube

vanilla + sugarcane Sensual Massage Oil

lemongrass + ginger Sensual Massage Oil

lavender + rosemary Sensual Massage Oil

Orange Blossom + Patchouli Massage Cream

Sage + Sea Salt Massage Cream

Stripped + Bare Massage Cream

Creme Stroking Cream

Essential Category 3: Comfort Tools & Intimacy Aids

Don’t overlook the power of physical support. During perimenopause, menopause and beyond, the right tools can make a massive difference.

Wedge Pillows & Positioning Cushions

• Offers back, hip, and leg support
• Reduces pressure on joints
• Helpful for those with vaginal dryness or pelvic tension
• Excellent for enhancing angles with menopause sex toys

Ice Packs & Cooling Wraps

• For sudden hot flashes or post-intimacy cool down
• Use neck wraps or gel packs

Heating Pads

• Soothe lower back cramps, tension, or joint pain
• Doubles as a comfort aid before or after intimacy

Weighted Blankets or Robes

• Calms the nervous system
• Eases perimenopausal anxiety or mood shifts
• Creates a cozy, sensual environment

Clean, Soft Towels or Wipes

• Hormonal skin can be more sensitive
• Have hypoallergenic wipes and towels nearby for post-play comfort

Menopause-Specific Sex Toys

Not all toys are created equal. Look for:

• Flexible silicone for gentle exploration
• Slimmer vibrators for comfort
• Toys with warming features

Popular menopause sex toys:

• Slimline vibrators
• External clitoral massagers
• Wand-style vibrators with adjustable intensities
• G-spot and anal toys with ergonomic design

"Menopausal bodies deserve more than silence. They deserve sensation. I love recommending silicone-based toys paired with menopause lube for maximum comfort." — Joan Price, author of Sex After Grief and senior sex educator

Essential Category 4: Mind & Mood Support

Your survival kit isn’t complete without tending to your mental and emotional well-being.

Affirmation Cards or Journals

• Reconnect with your evolving sense of self
• Great for daily gratitude or tracking perimenopause sexual desire

Herbal Teas for Hormone Support

• Red raspberry leaf, black cohosh, and chamomile for soothing balance

Sensual Music Playlist

• Helps set the mood
• Reinforces intimacy on your own terms

How to Use This Menopause Kit in Daily Life

Morning Routine:

• Use simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA as a moisturizer
• Sip an herbal tea while journaling or stretching

Evening Wind-Down:

• Apply massage oil or cream
• Use a heating pad on hips or lower back
• Snuggle under a weighted blanket

Intimate Moments:

• Set up wedge cushions and have menopause lube nearby
• Choose your favorite toy
• Dim the lights, play music, and let go

Post-Play:

• Use soft wipes or towels
• Rehydrate with water or tea
• Reflect on what felt good and what your body is asking for next

 

rose + sandalwood Sensual Massage Oil

honeysuckle + ivy Sensual Massage Oil

Coconut Oil Based Lube

vanilla + sugarcane Sensual Massage Oil

lemongrass + ginger Sensual Massage Oil

lavender + rosemary Sensual Massage Oil

Orange Blossom + Patchouli Massage Cream

Sage + Sea Salt Massage Cream

Stripped + Bare Massage Cream

Creme Stroking Cream

Top 5 Must-Have Menopausal Lubricants (Summary)

 

Lubricant	Best For	Format
simply® timeless Aqua	Everyday use	Water-based
simply® timeless Aqua Jelle	Cushion for toys or anal	Thick water-based
simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA	Moisture + hormone support	Hybrid
simply® timeless Silicone	Long- lasting play	Silicone
simply Hybrid	Smooth toy use & foreplay	Hybrid

simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA

simply® timeless Silicone

simply® timeless Aqua JELLE Water-Based

simply® timeless Aqua Water-Based

Your Menopause, Your Intimacy, Your Way

Your body is not a problem to fix—it’s a story unfolding. Menopause doesn’t end your sex life or self-worth. With the right support and products, it can open new doors to:

• Deeper self-knowing
• More intentional pleasure
• Greater comfort and control

"This isn't about returning to the body you had. It's about honoring the one you have now." — jessica drake

 

You deserve to feel confident, sexy, and soothed.

 

Ready to Build Your Own Menopause Survival Kit?

Start with these essentials:

• The best lubricant for intercourse after menopause: simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA
• Massage oils and creams: Stripped + Bare Sensual Massage Cream, Lavender Massage Oil
• Supportive props: Cushions, heating pads, and menopause sex toys

 

Shop Wicked Sensual Care’s complete line of menopausal lubricants and sensual care today.

→ Explore the simply® timeless collection here

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(And What to Use for Every Type of Toy)

Let’s be real: sex toys can be a big part of a satisfying, healthy sex life—but if you’re not cleaning them properly (and immediately) after use, you could be exposing yourself to bacteria, infection, and even long-term damage to your favorite toys.

In this blog, we’ll explain exactly why cleaning your sex toys right after use is necessary or your health and pleasure, how to clean different types of materials, and which Wicked Sensual Care toy cleaner products are the best for each scenario—whether you’re using a foaming toy cleaner, a spray, or the convenient Toy Cleaner Refill Pouch.

Spoiler: soap and water isn’t always enough.

Why Clean Your Sex Toys After Every Use?

It might seem obvious, but a surprising number of people delay cleaning their toys—sometimes for days. That’s not just a little gross—it can be harmful.

1. Bacteria Build-Up Happens Fast

After sex or solo play, your toys are exposed to:

• Bodily fluids (like vaginal fluid, semen, and saliva)

• Lube (which can trap bacteria)

• Skin cells

• Potential fecal matter (especially with anal toys)

Even after one use, bacteria can start multiplying quickly. If left on the toy, these microbes can reintroduce harmful bacteria into your body during your next session—leading to infections like bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, UTIs, and anal irritation.

 

2. Some Toys Are Porous—Which Means Germs Stay Longer

Toys made of jelly, rubber, elastomer, or PVC are porous. That means they can trap bacteria even after rinsing with water or wiping with a towel.

Cleaning immediately helps reduce how deep bacteria can sink into the surface—and using the right toy cleaner makes a big difference.

 

3. Clean Toys = Longer-Lasting Toys

Sex toys are an investment. Whether you’re using a luxury vibrator, a silicone dildo, or a couple’s vibe, regular cleaning preserves the material and protects the motor from lube and fluid build-up.

A high-quality anti-bacterial toy foaming cleaner like Foam ‘n Fresh cleans gently without damaging delicate toy surfaces or leaving residue.

 

Pro Tip: Avoid harsh household soaps that contain sulfates, perfumes, or alcohol. They can dry out or damage silicone and other materials.

Toy Cleaner Refill Pouch

simply® Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

simply® Foam and Fresh

Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

Foam ‘n Fresh

Soap and Water vs. Toy Cleaner: What’s Better?

A common search term is: “toy cleaner vs. soap and water.” Here’s the deal:

Soap and Water:

• Works in a pinch

• Needs thorough rinsing

• Can dry out materials or leave residue if not properly washed off

Toy Cleaner:

• Formulated to kill bacteria without damaging your toy

• Quick-drying

• pH-balanced and gentle on skin and materials

Using a dedicated Wicked toy cleaner is safer, easier, and better for your toys.

 

How to Clean Different Types of Sex Toys

Different materials require different care. Let’s break it down:

 

Silicone Toys

(non-porous, body-safe, most common)

• How to clean: Use a foaming toy cleaner like Foam ‘n Fresh or simply® Foam & Fresh, rinse, and wipe down with a clean cloth. You can also boil them (if non-vibrating).
  
  
• Products to use:
  • simply® Foam & Fresh

  • Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

 

ABS Plastic, Glass, or Metal

(non-porous, easy to sanitize)

• How to clean: Use a spray like simply® Cleene for a fast, effective clean. Rinse with water and pat dry or air dry.
  
• Products to use:
  
  • simply® Cleene Spray

  • Toy Cleaner Refill Pouch (refill your bottle)

These materials don’t retain bacteria but still need to be cleaned promptly after use.

 

TPR, PVC, or Jelly Toys

(porous, require thorough cleaning)

• How to clean: These materials can trap bacteria, so wash with a foaming antibacterial toy cleaner, rinse, and let fully air dry.
  
  
• Products to use:
  • Foam ‘n Fresh

  • Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray (follow with water rinse)

Important: These toys are harder to sanitize and should not be shared unless covered with a condom.

 

Vibrating or Motorized Toys

(electronic, require care)

• How to clean: Never submerge. Instead, spray Cleene onto a cloth, rinse carefully, and wipe clean, avoiding battery ports or buttons.

• Products to use:
  • Cleene 4 oz Spray

  • Refill Pouch for long-term use

Bonus Tip: Don’t forget to remove batteries or fully power off before cleaning. Never clean a toy while plugged in. 

Featured Products for Every Routine

simply® Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

• Quick, alcohol-free spray

• Kills bacteria, safe for all toys

• Fast-drying

 

simply® Foam & Fresh

• Foaming pump bottle

• Gentle on silicone and skin

• No harsh chemicals
  

 

Toy Cleaner Refill Pouch 

• Refill your existing spray or foam bottle

• Eco-friendly and cost-effective

• Great for heavy toy users or couples
  

Toy Cleaner Refill Pouch

simply® Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

simply® Foam and Fresh

Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

Foam ‘n Fresh

When Should You Clean Toys?

Right. After. Use. Always.

Even if you’re tired. Even if it’s "just for a second." Waiting allows bacteria to dry and settle into the toy’s surface. It also makes cleanup harder later.

Bonus Tip: Keep a bottle of Foam ‘n Fresh and a soft towel next to your sink. It only takes 30 seconds!

 

FAQs About Cleaning Sex Toys

Can I use baby wipes or makeup wipes?

No. These often contain oils, alcohol, or fragrances that can damage toys and irritate your skin.

What if I share my toys?

Use condoms on toys during shared use and always clean with an antibacterial toy cleaner afterward.

Can I clean my toys in the dishwasher?

Only if they are 100% silicone with no electronic parts. Even then, hand cleaning with a foaming cleaner is safer and gentler.

 

Respect Your Pleasure—Clean Your Toys

Keeping your toys clean isn’t just about hygiene. It’s about respecting your body, your pleasure, and your investment. A high-quality adult toy cleaner like simply® Cleene or Foam ‘n Fresh makes it easy, safe, and fast.

So the next time you finish a solo session or partner play, don’t toss your toy on the nightstand. Show it some love—with the right cleaner.

 

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Navigating perimenopause or menopause as a non-binary or trans person is deeply personal and often emotionally fraught. Unfortunately, most conversations, resources, and even healthcare systems frame menopause as a cisgender female experience. But what happens when that narrative doesn’t fit?

 

If you’re feeling invisible, overwhelmed, or dysphoric navigating hormonal shifts, you’re not alone. This blog is here to affirm, educate, and support you. Whether you're taking HRT for non-binary affirmation, facing unexpected menopause symptoms, or just trying to find the safest lubricant for intercourse after menopause—we see you.

 

We’ll also explore Wicked Sensual Care's simply timeless collection—a line of lubricants thoughtfully formulated for dryness, irritation, and hormone-related changes often experienced during perimenopause, menopause and beyond.

Why This Conversation Matters

Let’s start here: menopause is not a woman-only experience.

While mainstream narratives often portray menopause as something that happens only to cisgender women, many trans men, non-binary people, and gender non-conforming individuals also experience it. For some, it can be empowering. For others, it can cause distress or disconnection from gender identity.

 

Important Definitions:

• Perimenopause: The hormonal transition before menopause.
• Menopause: Typically defined as 12 months after the last menstrual period.
• Menopausal Hormone Therapy (MHT) or HRT: Hormones used to reduce symptoms of menopause.

"Menopause happens to PEOPLE, not just 'ladies.'" — Queer Menopause

7 Common Challenges for Non-Binary and Trans People During Menopause

1. Gendered Language & Invisibility

• Medical brochures say "women," not "people."
• Pronouns are often assumed.
• Conversations are filled with binary assumptions.

2. Dysphoria Triggered by Hormonal or Bodily Changes

• Vaginal dryness, hot flashes, and mood swings can feel deeply gendered.
• Menopause-related medical exams can trigger body dysphoria.

3. Lack of Inclusive Care

• Doctors may not recognize that trans men or non-binary AFAB folks experience menopause.
• HRT for non-binary AFAB individuals may be complicated by hormone gatekeeping.

4. Navigating Hormones

• Some may avoid estrogen-based MHT for fear of being "re-feminized."
• Others may find that microdosing testosterone helps libido and comfort.

5. Sexual Discomfort

• GSM (Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause) causes pain and dryness.
• Finding the best lubricant for intercourse after menopause can be a game-changer.

6. Mental Health & Identity Shifts

• Hormonal changes can impact how we relate to our gender.
• Some people feel more aligned with their gender identity post-menopause; others feel confusion.

7. Fear of Aging Without Affirming Resources

• There's a profound lack of visibility for aging LGBTQIA+ bodies.
• Resources are often focused on reproduction and femininity.

What Helps? Affirming Strategies & Tools

1. Inclusive Hormone Care

• Talk to an LGBTQIA+ competent doctor about options like:
  • Microdosing testosterone
  • Combining T with topical estrogen (for GSM)
  • Customizing MHT to your needs

2. Use the Right Lubricants for You

Sex lubricant for menopausal dryness like the simply timeless is essential for comfort and pleasure.

Our top picks from the simply timeless collection:

simply timeless Aqua (Water-Based)

• Ideal for daily dryness and intimacy.
• Fragrance-free, pH balanced, safe with all toys.

simply timeless Aqua Jelle

• A thicker water-based option, perfect for anal play or extra cushion.

simply timeless Hybrid + DHEA

• Blends water + silicone and adds DHEA for skin-comforting, long-lasting play.
• Excellent for daily moisturizing and comfort.

simply timeless Silicone

• Long-lasting, ultra-slick, ideal for long sessions or shower play.

Many non-binary people feel empowered when menstruation stops—but shocked when menopause symptoms still arrive. Lubricants can help ease this transition with comfort, not shame.

simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA

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simply® timeless Silicone

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simply® timeless Aqua JELLE Water-Based

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simply® timeless Aqua Water-Based

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3. Connect with Affirming Community Resources 

• Follow platforms like Queer Menopause and check out our Menopause Hub.
• Find local LGBTQIA+ menopause or perimenopause support groups.
• Talk openly about what helps libido during menopause—you're not alone!

4. Reframe Sexuality Post-Menopause

Menopause can radically change sex—but that doesn't mean your sex life has to end.

Pleasure After 40+? Absolutely.

Tips:

• Redefine intimacy beyond penetration.
• Explore mutual touch, massage, kink, toys.
• Lubricants = less friction, more sensation, more confidence.

5. Mental Health & Gender Affirmation

• Seek therapists who understand:
  • Non-binary estrogen needs
  • Trans people and menopause
  • Non-binary AFAB menopause experiences

"I didn’t even know I was in menopause until my periods stopped. My doctor didn’t think to mention it because I’m a transmasc person. I only realized when the brain fog and night sweats hit full blast." — SR42, LGBTQ+ Menopause Survey

FAQs: Non-Binary and Trans Menopause Real Talk

 

Q: Can trans men get menopause?

Yes. If you are AFAB and still have ovaries, you can go through perimenopause and menopause—even if you’re on testosterone.

 

Q: What helps with menopause sex drive?

• DHEA-infused lubricants like simply® timeless Hybrid
• Low-dose testosterone
• Mindful pleasure practices

 

Q: What's the safest lubricant for intercourse after menopause?

• Water-based options like simply® timeless Aqua are gentle and pH-balanced.
• Avoid glycerin or parabens if you have sensitivities.
• Consider silicone or hybrid for longer-lasting moisture.

 

Q: What if estrogen makes me dysphoric?

• Microdosing testosterone may offer relief.
• Topical estrogen for vaginal dryness is a good option as it doesn’t circulate system-wide.
• There is no one-size-fits-all approach—you deserve options that align with your body and identity.

simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA

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simply® timeless Silicone

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simply® timeless Aqua JELLE Water-Based

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simply® timeless Aqua Water-Based

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Menopause While Trans or Non-Binary: You Are Not Alone

Navigating menopause when you're non-binary, trans, or gender non-conforming comes with unique challenges—but also powerful opportunities for self-affirmation.

 

Here's what we want you to remember:

• Menopause happens to people.
• Your experience is valid, even if medical forms or magazines ignore it.
• Lubricants are not a luxury—they're liberation.
• There are solutions for perimenopause sexual desire and dryness that will work for your body and your identity.

 

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Further Reading & Sources:

• Queer Menopause Blog
• APA PsycNet: Menopause and TGNB Experiences
• PMC Research: Menopause and TGNB Populations

 

Your body, your gender, your pleasure—they all deserve care.

Wicked Sensual Care sees you.

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Key Points

• Anal play requires lube—always. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so using a high-quality anal lubricant is essential for comfort, safety, and pleasure.

• Choose the right lube for your needs. Water-based lubes like Wicked Jelle are beginner-friendly and toy-safe, while Jelle Plus gently relaxes muscles without numbing, and Jelle Heat/Chill adds sensation play.

• Avoid numbing lubes and DIY options. Desensitizing products can increase the risk of injury. Stick with body-safe, tested lubes like Wicked Sensual Care’s Jelle collection for a more enjoyable experience.

Comfort, Confidence & the Best Lube for Anal Exploration

Let’s be honest—anal play can feel a little intimidating if you’ve never tried it. But with the right mindset, communication, and most importantly, the right anal lube, it can become an exciting, pleasurable, and even empowering part of your intimate life.

This guide is here to help you get comfortable with the basics of anal lubrication and play. Whether you're exploring solo or with a partner, we’ll walk you through how to choose the best anal lubricant as well as practical tips for pleasure, comfort, and safety—no shame, no judgment, just good info.

We’ll also spotlight some of Wicked Sensual Care’s most trusted anal lubes—including Jelle, Jelle Plus, Jelle Heat, and Jelle Chill—and explain why choosing the right one matters for your body and desires.

 

Why Lube Is Essential for Anal Play

Let’s start with the big truth: there’s no such thing as too much lube during anal play. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate. That means using the right anal lubricant isn’t just helpful—it’s essential.

Here’s what the right anal lube does:

• Prevents tearing and microtrauma 
• Reduces friction and discomfort 
• Increases pleasure and ease 
• Supports a safer, more relaxed experience 

jessica drake, Wicked Sensual Care’s Director of Product Development and a certified sex educator, puts it best:

“Comfort is the foundation of pleasure. A great lube turns apprehension into confidence—and helps people explore anal play with curiosity instead of fear.”

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Understanding Your Options: Types of Anal Lubricants

Before we dive into our recommended products, it’s helpful to understand the main types of lubes commonly used for anal play:

1. Water-Based Anal Lube

• Easy to clean

• Compatible with all toys and condoms

• May need to reapply more often

• Ideal for beginners

Best for: General anal play, anal masturbation, and anal sex with toys or condoms

2. Silicone-Based Anal Lube

• Extra-long-lasting

• Extremely slick

• Not always compatible with silicone toys

• Great for extended play

Best for: Experienced users, long sessions, or use without toys

3. Specialty Lubes

These include warming anal lubes, cooling sensation anal lube, anal relaxing lube, and flavored anal lubes. These are often water-based and include additional ingredients for sensation play or taste.

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Meet the Jelle Collection: Wicked Sensual Care’s Anal Lubes

Ready to find the best lube for anal sex? Let’s talk about Wicked Sensual Care’s Jelle line. Known as the holy grail of anal lubes, the Jelle products are designed specifically to enhance anal play with safety, pleasure, and comfort in mind.

Jelle – The Anal Lube Holy Grail

• Water-based, thick cushiony formula

• Designed for extended play

• Toy and condom safe

• Unscented, fragrance-free, and vegan

Why it works: Its ultra-thick texture stays exactly where you want it, reducing the need for constant reapplication.

Perfect for: Beginners and pros alike

 

Jelle Plus – Natural Relaxants, No Numbing Agents

• Infused with natural clove oil and jojoba extract to gently relax the anal muscles

• No lidocaine or desensitizers—so you stay fully in tune with your body

• Long-lasting water-based formula

Why it works: It helps ease tension naturally without masking important sensations that help prevent injury.

jessica drake’s tip:

“Desensitizing creams may dull pain, but they also dull pleasure—and they can increase your risk of injury. That’s why Jelle Plus is such a great option. It encourages relaxation without disconnecting you from your body.”

Perfect for: People who want to feel more relaxed without going numb

Jelle Heat – Gentle Warming Anal Lube

• Sensual warming sensation adds extra stimulation

• Thick water-based formula for lasting slickness

• Safe for toys and condoms

Why it works: A little heat goes a long way in intensifying arousal—without irritation.

Perfect for: Couples wanting to spice things up, or solo exploration

 

Jelle Chill – Cooling Anal Lube

• Adds a tingling, cooling sensation to anal play

• Ultra-slick and long-lasting

• Great for people who love temperature play

Why it works: Some people find a cooling sensation helps distract from initial discomfort and makes penetration feel easier.

Perfect for: Adventurous users or people who enjoy sensation play

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Flavored Anal Lubes for Analingus

Analingus (aka rimming) can be a deliciously intimate experience—but flavored lube makes it safer, tastier, and cleaner for everyone involved.

Birthday Cake & Blueberry Muffin Flavored Lubes

• Water-based, body-safe 
• Taste like dessert (literally)

• No sugars, no parabens, and toy-safe
  

Why they work: Adding flavored anal lube during rimming not only makes it more enjoyable—it can help ease nerves and create more positive associations with anal play.

Perfect for: Rimming, oral on butt plugs or beads, or just adding fun to foreplay

 

 

Is Numbing Anal Lube Safe?

Let’s clear this up: while numbing creams or desensitizing anal lubes are widely available, they’re not recommended by most sexual health educators.

Why not?

• They mask pain signals your body uses to protect itself 
• They can increase the risk of tearing 
• They can dull both discomfort and pleasure 

Instead of reaching for numbing anal cream or anal numbing gel, choose a product like Jelle Plus, which gently relaxes without desensitizing.

 

How to Use Anal Lubricant: Step-by-Step

Using lube for anal doesn’t need to be complicated, but technique matters.

How to Apply:

1. Start with clean hands and a clean anus 
2. Warm up the lube between your fingers. 
3. Apply a generous amount to your anus and any toys or fingers being used. 
4. Reapply as needed—more is more when it comes to anal! 

How often to reapply?
Every 10–15 minutes is common, especially with water-based lubes. If things start to feel sticky or dry, that’s your cue.

Tip from jessica drake:

“Use lube as part of your foreplay, not just penetration. Let it be part of the ritual. Massage it in. Enjoy it.”

 

Cleaning Up After Anal Play

Clean-up is just as important as prep. Anal play involves bacteria, so proper hygiene is crucial.

Foam & Fresh Toy Cleaner

• Foaming cleanser that’s toy-safe and body-safe 
• Antimicrobial and unscented 
• A must for anal toys 

Why it works: You want to keep your toys (and your body) safe without using harsh chemicals. Foam & Fresh is a gentle powerhouse for post-play peace of mind. You can even take a shower with your toys and/or partner afterwards to get all clean together!

DIY Anal Lube? Think Twice.

Search terms like DIY anal lube might seem tempting—but homemade lubes often lack pH balance, safety testing, and toy compatibility.

Skip the kitchen and stick to science-backed products. Your body will thank you.

 

FAQs: Quick Answers to Common Anal Lube Questions

Is water or silicone-based lube better for anal play?

Water-based is better for beginners and toy use. Ultra Silicone is longer-lasting but not always toy-safe.

What’s the best anal lube for sensitive skin?

Try Jelle Plus, which has no harsh chemicals or numbing agents and uses natural relaxants.

How much lube should I use?

A lot. Seriously—use more than you think you need. Reapply as needed throughout your session.

 

What’s the best lube for anal toys?

Water-based lubes like Jelle or Jelle Heat/Chill are safe for all toy materials.

 

Start Slow, Lube Generously, and Stay Curious

Anal play is one of the most misunderstood—and most rewarding—forms of intimacy out there. With the right tools (like a high-quality anal lubricant), education, and consent, you can explore it safely and confidently.

Whether you’re after the best lube for anal toys, seeking a natural anal lube that supports your body, or just looking for the best lube for anal sex in general, Wicked Sensual Care has your back (and your booty).

 

Recommended Products Recap:

• Jelle – Best all-around anal lube

• Jelle Plus – Natural relaxant, no numbing

• Jelle Heat – For warming sensation lovers

• Jelle Chill – For cooling & tingling

• Ultra Silicone – Long-lasting silicone

• Birthday Cake & Blueberry Muffin – Best flavored lubes for analingus

• Foam & Fresh – Best cleaner for anal toys

Need help finding the best anal lubricant for your needs?

Explore our full anal play collection at WickedSensualCare.com

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Your Body’s Changing—Your Pleasure Shouldn’t Have to

Perimenopause marks the beginning of a new chapter. Hormonal shifts can start as early as your 30s or 40s and often bring unexpected side effects—hot flashes, irregular cycles, and for many people, changes in libido, sensitivity, and comfort during intimacy.

But here's the thing: this doesn't mean your sex life is over. It means your needs are evolving—and there are tools designed to meet you right where you are.

The right sex toys, paired with quality lubricants and enhancers like those from Wicked Sensual Care, can help you reconnect with your body, boost confidence, and reclaim pleasure. In this guide, we’re diving into how perimenopause affects sexual wellness—and which toys, lubes, and accessories can help you enhance intimacy and feel more like you again.

What Perimenopause Does to Your Sex Life (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)

Perimenopause is the transitional phase before menopause, and it can last several years. According to the Cleveland Clinic (2023) and Harvard Health, hormonal fluctuations during this time often lead to:

• Vaginal dryness 
• Decreased arousal 
• Changes in sensitivity 
• Increased time to orgasm 
• Lower libido 

These aren’t failures—they’re natural changes. And thankfully, you’re not stuck with discomfort or frustration. With the right support, intimacy can feel better than ever.

 

Why Sex Toys Matter More During Perimenopause

Many people discover that during perimenopause, what used to work doesn’t quite do the trick anymore. That’s okay. This is actually the perfect time to explore new types of stimulation and discover what feels good now.

Here’s how toys can help:

• Boost arousal and blood flow to the genitals. 
• Enhance sensitivity where it may have dulled. 
• Make solo play easier and more satisfying. 
• Help partners navigate changing needs in a non-stressful way. 

And remember: Pairing toys with the right lube and stimulation-enhancing products can maximize comfort and pleasure.

 

Top Sex Toys to Try During Perimenopause

1. External Vibrators

When internal stimulation is uncomfortable or less satisfying, external toys are game-changers. They’re perfect for gentle clitoral stimulation, which can help rebuild arousal and sensitivity.

Try it with:

Wicked Sensual Care Awaken Clitoral Stimulating Gel
This unique formula increases circulation and sensation with a botanical blend that feels tingly but not overwhelming. It’s made without menthol, parabens, or fragrance—perfect for sensitive skin.

Pair with:

simply® timeless Aqua Lubricant
Water-based, non-irritating, and designed especially for menopausal and perimenopausal bodies.

 

2. Slim Internal Vibrators or Dilators

If you’re dealing with tightness or discomfort during penetration, starting small is key. Look for slim, body-safe silicone vibrators or even graduated dilator sets. These allow you to rebuild internal comfort at your own pace.

Tips:

• Use plenty of lube (we recommend simply® timeless Aqua Jelle for extra cushion). 
• Go slow. This is about retraining the body without pain. 

Don’t forget to clean after each use: Wicked Sensual Care Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray is a must—quick, easy, and gentle on materials and skin.

 

3. Dual Stimulation Toys

Also known as rabbit vibrators or combination toys, these stimulate the clitoris and G-spot simultaneously. If you find your orgasms take longer or feel different than before, this type of toy can help restore that full-body bliss.

Enhance the experience with:

• Wicked Sensual Care Hybrid Lubricant: A long-lasting blend of water and silicone that provides silky glide—especially great for more intense toy play. 

 

4. Hands-Free Toys and Couples Toys

Sex during perimenopause often improves when pressure is taken off performance. Hands-free toys and vibrating rings let you or your partner focus more on pleasure, not technique.

These toys are especially helpful for:

• Keeping things intimate without overexertion 
• Supporting partner play when libido or energy levels are low 

Use with:

• simply® Aqua Special Edition (supports LGBTQIA+ organizations and is a great choice for clean, water-based fun) 
• Toy Love or Toy Love Heat for extra sensory excitement 

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Lube: Your Everyday Essential

Hormonal changes = less natural lubrication, even when aroused. Lube isn’t just a helper anymore—it’s essential for comfort, safety, and pleasure.

Top menopause-safe picks from Wicked Sensual Care:

• simply® timeless Aqua: Clean, water-based, and enriched with olive leaf extract and DHEA.

• simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA: Perfect if you need extra staying power without reapplying constantly.

• Wicked Aqua Sensitive: If you have allergies or are prone to irritation.

Quick tip: Use lube before dryness becomes noticeable. It works best when you’re proactive, not reactive.

 

Using Enhancers to Boost Sensation

If your clitoris or G-spot feels less responsive, you’re not imagining it. Estrogen drop-off affects blood flow, which impacts sensation. That’s where a gentle topical enhancer can make all the difference.

Try:
Wicked Sensual Care Awaken Clitoral Stimulating Gel
Apply a tiny amount (pea-sized!) to the clitoris and allow it to absorb. Wait a few minutes before beginning play. It can be used solo or with toys and partners.

Bonus: It's toy compatible and safe for daily use if you want to experiment with how it affects your arousal levels.

 

Don’t Skip Toy Cleaning

Tissue becomes thinner and more prone to irritation during perimenopause, so toy hygiene is non-negotiable. The last thing you want is to introduce bacteria that can lead to infections or discomfort.

We recommend:

• simply® Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray for fast, everyday cleaning.

• simply® Foam ’n Fresh for a more thorough, wash-and-rinse clean.

Hack: Keep toy cleaner next to your sink or in your toy drawer—if it’s visible, you’ll use it.

 

How to Talk to a Partner About These Changes

Perimenopause affects you both—so keep communication open and compassionate. Here are some talking points:

• “Things are changing, and I want us to figure out new ways to enjoy each other.”

• “I’m exploring different types of touch and toys to help my body feel good again.”

• “This isn’t about replacing anything. It’s about evolving together.”

Involve your partner in toy selection or let them apply lube or enhancers—shared rituals build connection.

 

Perimenopause Is a New Era—Not the End

If you’re in the thick of perimenopause and feeling disconnected from your body, please know: you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Your sex life doesn’t end here—it simply® needs support that meets you where you are today.

With Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless collection, gentle and effective toy-friendly lubricants, plus trusted toy cleaners and arousal gels like Awaken, you can take control of your intimacy with confidence and care.

Because pleasure should be a constant—not a casualty of aging.

 

Citations:

• Cleveland Clinic. (2023). Perimenopause: What It Is, Symptoms & Treatment. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/16561-perimenopause 

• Harvard Health Publishing. (2022). Sex and menopause: What to expect. https://www.health.harvard.edu/womens-health/sex-and-menopause-what-to-expect

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Whether you’re single, partnered, into toys, or just curious about upping your game, these are my top 5 sex tips that I believe everyone should know. Think of it as my personal cheat sheet to better sex, sprinkled with some of my favorite Wicked Sensual Care products (because, let’s face it, good lube and a little prep go a LONG way).

Let’s dive in!

1⃣ Talk About Sex… Yes, Actually Talk About It

I know, I know—talking about sex can feel awkward. But here’s the thing: the best sex happens when everyone’s on the same page.

I’ve said it in so many workshops: no one is a mind reader. Whether you’ve been with your partner for 10 years or 10 minutes, asking (and telling!) what you want is the fastest way to more satisfying sex.

My favorite ways to get the convo started?

• Use a fun “Would You Rather” game with sexy twists.

• Watch an erotic movie together and ask, “What part turned you on the most?”

• Or just straight-up say, “I’d love to try something new with you—are you game?”

Hot tip: When you’re talking about new things to try, grab a bottle of Wicked Sensual Care Aqua Salted Caramel and do a little taste test. It keeps things light, fun, and delicious!

2⃣ Lube, Lube, Lube (And Did I Mention Lube?)

If you’ve ever been to one of my classes or read my past blogs, you know what I’m about to say: LUBE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND.

Seriously—no matter your age, gender, or what kind of sex you’re having, lube:

• Increases pleasure.

• Reduces friction (and ouch moments).

• Helps prevent microtears and irritation.

And it’s not just for people who think they need it—lube makes everything feel better. My absolute go-to is Wicked Sensual Care Aqua. It’s water-based, super silky, and safe for use with all toys and condoms.

Feeling extra?
Try simply® Aqua Special Edition—same amazing formula, PLUS a portion of proceeds supports LGBTQIA+ organizations. Pleasure + giving back? Yes, please.

3⃣ Slow. It. Down.

One of the biggest mistakes I see people make (especially when nerves or excitement take over) is rushing through sex. But trust me—the magic is in the buildup.

Think about it like this: the longer the tease, the bigger the payoff. Let kissing linger, explore your partner’s whole body, and focus on what feels good now instead of racing toward the finish line.

One of my favorite tools to help you slow things down? Massage. A sensual massage is not only relaxing, it’s a full-body invitation to get in the mood.

Grab one of Wicked Sensual Care’s sensual massage oils—I personally love the Vanilla + Sugarcane blend—and make a date of it. Bonus: massaging each other teaches you a LOT about what your partner likes.

4⃣ Say Yes to Solo Play

Let’s bust a myth right now: solo sex is NOT second best. In fact, I always tell people that getting to know your own body—on your own terms—is one of the best things you can do for your sexual wellness.

Masturbation helps:

• Relieve stress.

• Improve sleep.

• Teach you exactly what feels good (so you can tell your partner!).

If you’re new to toys or just want to spice up your routine, pair your favorite vibe with Wicked Sensual Care Awaken Clitoral Stimulating Gel. It’s designed to heighten sensitivity in a way that feels tingly and delicious—but never overwhelming or irritating (no menthol here!).

Pro tip: Apply a little Awaken, give it a few minutes to kick in, and then add Aqua for a silky smooth experience.

5⃣ Clean Your Toys. Every. Single. Time.

This is IMPORTANT. Toys that aren’t properly cleaned can lead to irritation or even infections—and when you’ve invested in beautiful toys, you want them to last.

I always keep Wicked Sensual Care Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray and Foam ’n Fresh within reach. They’re easy to use, gentle on your toys (and body), and help you keep everything fresh and safe.

Quick tip: Make toy cleaning part of your aftercare or cool-down ritual. It keeps things sexy, respectful, and ready for next time.

jessica drake’s Top 5 Sex Tips

At the end of the day, the best sex tip I can give you is this: there’s no one right way to have amazing sex. What matters is that it’s consensual, safe, and satisfying for you.

Whether you’re diving into something new with a partner, enjoying a night of solo exploration, or just starting the convo about what you want, remember to:

• Be kind to yourself.

• Laugh off the awkward moments.

• Celebrate every win, big or small.

And of course—keep your nightstand stocked with Wicked Sensual Care’s sensual lubricants, enhancers, and toy cleaners. Because good sex starts with good tools (and good communication).

Here’s to your best sex life yet—

xo,

 jessica drake

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Why Lube Is a Must-Have for Every Queer Bedroom

No matter your gender, orientation, or how you love to play—lube makes everything better. But in the queer community, where pleasure often steps outside the traditional "tab A into slot B" narrative, lube isn’t just nice to have—it’s essential.

Whether you’re having penetrative sex, oral fun, hand play, or anything in between, the right lubricant enhances comfort, boosts pleasure, and keeps everything smooth (and safe).

But with so many options, how do you pick the right one for your specific kind of play? That’s where this guide comes in. Let’s break down the best lubes for same-sex couples and queer pleasure, with real talk about different kinds of intimacy—and why Wicked Sensual Care’s range (especially Aqua water-based lube, Jelle anal lube, and delicious flavored lubricants) is beloved in queer bedrooms everywhere.

 

For Anal Play: Cushion, Cushion, Cushion

Anal play is fabulous—but it comes with zero natural lubrication. This means a high-quality lube is non-negotiable. The ideal anal lube should be:

• Thicker: To provide cushion and reduce friction.
• Long-lasting: No one wants to keep stopping to reapply.

• Body-safe: Compatible with condoms and toys.

Top pick:

Wicked Sensual Care Jelle Anal Lubricant
Available in 4 oz and 8 oz sizes, Jelle is a thicker, water-based lube made specifically for anal play. It offers that "pillowy" feel that keeps everything comfortable, and it's safe for use with condoms and all toys.

Need even more variety?

• Jelle Chill Sensation Anal Lube: Adds a subtle cooling twist for extra sensation. 
• Jelle Heat Warming Anal Lube: Perfect if you love a little warmth with your play. 
• Jelle PLUS: Gentle warming sensation, plus natural relaxants.  

Pro tip: Want something that lasts even longer? Try Wicked Sensual Care Hybrid Lube (combines water and silicone) or Ultra Silicone for maximum staying power.

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Organic Aloe–Based Lube 4oz

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Anal Adventure Lube Kit

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Jelle PLUS – 8oz

$32.29

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Jelle PLUS – 4oz

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Ultra Silicone 4 oz

$40.79

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simply® Aqua Jelle 4 oz

$19.19

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simply® Hybrid Jelle 4 oz

$23.59

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Ultra Silicone 2 oz

$27.59

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Jelle Anal Lube 4 oz

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Jelle Anal Lube 8 oz

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For Oral Fun: Flavored Lubes That Taste as Good as They Feel

Let’s be honest: flavored lube is not just a gimmick—it’s a queer bedroom must-have, especially if you love oral play.

What makes a great flavored lube?

• Tastes amazing (not artificial).

• Body-safe and sugar-free (sweetened with stevia).

• Smooth and hydrating.

Wicked Sensual Care’s flavored lubes are some of the best in the biz. Each flavor is rich, delicious, and designed to enhance oral pleasure—without weird aftertastes or sticky residue.

Some faves:

• Aqua Strawberry (1 oz, 2 oz, 4 oz)

• Aqua Watermelon

• Aqua Salted Caramel

• Aqua Vanilla Bean

• Aqua Cinnamon Bun

• Aqua Mango

• Aqua Blueberry Muffin

• Aqua Birthday Cake

And if you’re indecisive? Try the Teasers Fresh Fruit Lube Flavor Mix or Teasers Coffee House Sampler Mix to experiment with different tastes.

Queer-friendly tip: These lubes are fantastic for oral on toys, too. Just make sure to clean your toys after (more on that later).

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Aqua Cherry 2 oz

$14.89

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Aqua Watermelon 2 oz

$14.89

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Aqua Strawberry Flavor 2 oz

$14.89

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Aqua Birthday Cake 4oz

$21.59

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Aqua Birthday Cake 2oz

$14.89

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Teasers Fresh Fruit Lube Flavor Mix

$14.39

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Teasers Coffee House Flavor Sampler Mix

$14.39

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Aqua Blueberry Muffin 4 oz

$21.59

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Aqua Blueberry Muffin 2 oz

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For Toy Play: Lube That’s Safe & Supports the Community

If you’re using toys—which, let’s be real, are a staple in many queer bedrooms—you need to make sure your lube is compatible with your gear. Most toys are silicone, so water-based lube is your safest bet.

Top pick:

Wicked Sensual Care Toy Love
This is a thick, water-based lube you and your toys will love. Compatible will all toy materials, including silicone.

Looking for something special?

simply® Aqua Special Edition
This clean, water-based lube offers all the silky glide you expect from simply® Aqua, but with a meaningful bonus: a portion of proceeds from every bottle supports LGBTQIA+ organizations year-round. It's a fantastic way to give back while you’re giving yourself (and your partner) pleasure.

 

If you’re prone to sensitivity:

simply® Aqua Jelle
Designed to be ultra-gentle, plus it’s free from glycerin and propylene glycol—perfect for sensitive skin, and for backdoor play.

Want to add variety in sensation?

• Toy Love Chill: Adds a cooling effect.
• Toy Love Heat: For a delicious warming sensation.

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simply® Aqua Special Edition

$19.19

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simply® Hybrid Jelle 4 oz

$23.59

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Toy Love Chill

$22.19

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Toy Love Heat

$21.19

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Don’t Forget: Clean Your Toys!

Lube + toys = fun. But clean-up matters. To keep your toys safe (and your body healthy), always wash your toys before and after use.

Our recs:

• Wicked Sensual Care Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray: Quick and easy.

• Foam ’n Fresh: A rinse-off foaming formula.

Hot tip: This step is especially important for anal toys and any toys you share with partners.

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Toy Cleaner Refill Pouch

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simply® Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

$20.29

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simply® Foam and Fresh

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Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

$14.39

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Foam ‘n Fresh

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How to Talk About Lube with Your Partner(s)

Not everyone grew up hearing “LUBE IS YOUR FRIEND!” so if your partner is new to it, here’s how to bring it up:

• Frame it as enhancing pleasure: “I’ve heard lube can make everything feel even better—want to try it?”

• Experiment together: Make a sexy date night out of testing different lubes (especially fun with flavored ones).

• Normalize it: Keep lube out where it’s easy to grab, like next to your bed or in your toy drawer.

 

Bonus: Fun Ways to Play with Lube

Want to get creative? Here are a few ideas:

• Mutual massage with a flavored lube: Tastes amazing and feels incredible.

• Use Jelle for edging or prostate play: The cushion helps you take your time and explore new sensations.

• Temperature play: Alternate between Aqua Chill and Aqua Heat for fun, contrasting sensations.

 

Best Lubes for Same-Sex Couples & Queer Pleasure

Lube isn’t just a “nice-to-have”—it’s a must-have for comfort, safety, and maximum pleasure, no matter your gender or sexual orientation. Wicked Sensual Care’s line-up—whether it’s the smooth Aqua Lube, the thick and fabulous Wicked Jelle, or the deliciously fun flavored lubricants—has your queer pleasure toolkit covered.

And with simply® Aqua Special Edition, you can support LGBTQIA+ organizations while enjoying one of the cleanest, most reliable lubes out there.

Mix, match, and experiment to find what works best for you and your partner(s)—and don’t forget to stock up on Wicked Sensual Care’s Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray to keep everything fresh, clean, and safe.

Here’s to more fun, more comfort, and more satisfaction—on your terms.

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Why the Right Lube Is Essential Post-Menopause

Let’s face it: menopause can bring on major changes in your body—and vaginal dryness is one of the most common (and frustrating). This can make sex not only uncomfortable but downright painful at times.

The good news? Finding the right lube can completely transform your experience—bringing back comfort, pleasure, and confidence.

But not all lubricants are created equal, and menopausal dryness needs special care. In this guide, we’ll break down exactly how to choose the best lube for your needs and highlight Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless collection, designed with your body in mind. We’ll also explain why ingredients matter and how to make your intimate moments smooth, safe, and satisfying.

What Causes Vaginal Dryness During Menopause?

Vaginal dryness happens when your body produces less natural lubrication. This is usually due to:

• Lower estrogen levels: Estrogen keeps vaginal tissues elastic and moist; less estrogen = more dryness.
• Thinning vaginal walls: This can make penetration uncomfortable or even cause microtears.
• Changes in pH balance: This may lead to irritation or infections.

It’s totally normal, but that doesn’t mean you have to just live with it.

 

Why Choosing the Right Lube Matters

You might think any lube will do—but when you’re dealing with menopausal dryness, the wrong formula can make things worse.

Here’s what to look for:

• Hydrating ingredients: Aloe vera, hyaluronic acid, and natural extracts can help soothe and hydrate.
• No harsh chemicals: Avoid glycerin and propylene glycol, which can potentially irritate sensitive tissues.
• Long-lasting glide: You want something that goes the extra mile.

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simply® Timeless Arousal Serum

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simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA

$25.69

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simply® timeless Silicone

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simply® timeless Aqua JELLE Water-Based

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Top Picks: Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless Collection

Designed specifically for people in perimenopause, menopause, and beyond, the simply® timeless collection is formulated to nourish, hydrate, and protect sensitive tissue. Here’s what makes it a standout choice:

1⃣ simply® timeless Aqua Water-Based Lubricant:
This silky, long-lasting formula mimics your natural lubrication. It’s water-based (so it's safe with all toys and condoms), free of propylene glycol, and infused with olive leaf extract and plant-based squalane to support vaginal health.

Great for:

• Daily dryness relief
• Vaginal and anal play
• Sensitive skin

 

2⃣ simply® timeless Aqua Jelle:
Need extra cushioning? This thicker gel formula provides maximum comfort and staying power. Perfect if you’ve had issues with painful penetration or want a little more "cush."

Great for:

• Deep penetration
• Longer sessions
• Added comfort

 

3⃣ simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA:
A combo of water-based and silicone lube, this gives you the best of both worlds—lasting glide with nourishing ingredients like DHEA. Ideal if you're looking for a longer-lasting, luxurious feel.

Great for:

• Extended sessions
• When water-based feels too light
• Adding a silky touch

Pro tip: Many menopausal users love pairing simply® timeless Aqua with Wicked Awaken Clitoral Stimulating Gel to help boost sensitivity during play.

What If You’re Sensitive to Lube?

If you’ve ever used a lube that caused stinging, burning, or irritation, you’re not alone. Many lubes (even popular ones!) contain propylene glycol, glycerin, and parabens, which can trigger reactions on sensitive, menopausal tissue.

 

 

That’s why Wicked Sensual Care Aqua Sensitive is a top pick. It’s:

• Propylene glycol-free
• Glycerin-free
• Fragrance-free
• Formulated for hypersensitive skin

This gentle, water-based formula still provides incredible glide but without the common irritants.

 

How to Apply Lube for Best Results

Use more than you think you need.
Dryness can absorb lube quickly, so don’t be shy about reapplying.

 

Apply it to you and your partner/toy.
This ensures maximum comfort and reduces friction from all angles.

 

Warm it up first.
Rub it between your fingers or palms so it’s not a shock to your system.

 

Consider daily use.
You can use simply® timeless Aqua daily as a vaginal moisturizer to help combat dryness even outside of sexual activity.

 

Don’t Forget: Keep Your Toys Clean

Using lube usually means using toys too—and hygiene is key. Bacteria and yeast can thrive on toys if you’re not careful, which is especially risky if your vaginal tissue is thin or sensitive.

We recommend:

• Wicked Sensual Care Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray: Quick, easy, and safe for all materials.
• Foam ’n Fresh: A gentle foaming cleanser if you prefer a rinse-off formula.

Reminder: Always clean toys before and after every use, especially when you’re dealing with any vaginal sensitivity.

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simply® Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

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simply® Foam and Fresh

$19.89

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Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray

$14.39

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Foam ‘n Fresh

$19.89

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Addressing Common Questions

How do I know if I’m sensitive to lube? If you notice burning, itching, or irritation during or after use, it could be the lube. Look for propylene glycol-free and glycerin-free formulas like Aqua Sensitive.

 

Is silicone lube safe to use?
Yes—silicone-based lubes like simply® timeless Hybrid are fantastic for menopausal dryness because they last longer. Just be cautious if you’re using silicone toys (it can degrade certain types of silicone).

 

Can lube help with pain during sex?
Absolutely. The right lube reduces friction, hydrates tissues, and can make a huge difference in comfort. However, if pain persists, talk to your doctor—there may be other treatments that can help.

 

Choosing the Best Lube for Menopause Dryness

Menopause might bring changes, but it doesn’t mean your sex life has to hit pause. Choosing the right lubricant—one that’s gentle, hydrating, and free of irritating ingredients—can restore your comfort and reignite your confidence.

Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless collection was made with your body in mind, offering safe, nourishing options like:

• simply® timeless Aqua for silky, water-based hydration.

• simply® timeless Aqua Jelle for extra cushioning.

• simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA for long-lasting glide.

Pair it with Cleene Antibacterial Toy Spray for a fresh, safe experience every time.

You deserve pleasure that feels amazing—and with the right products, you can absolutely have it.

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simply® Timeless Arousal Serum

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simply® timeless Hybrid + DHEA

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simply® timeless Silicone

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simply® timeless Aqua JELLE Water-Based

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$20.99

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simply® timeless Aqua Water-Based

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Citations:

• Mayo Clinic. (2023). Vaginal dryness: Symptoms and causes. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/vaginal-atrophy/symptoms-causes/syc-20352288

• North American Menopause Society. (2023). Vaginal and Vulvar Health. https://www.menopause.org/

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